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“You don't need to justify your love, you don't need to explain your love, you just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master.”
― Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“If you take your happiness and put it in someone’s hands, sooner or later, she is going to break it. If you give your happiness to someone else, she can always take it away. Then if happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love, you are responsible for your happiness.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“The one who has the little need is the one who controls the whole relationship. You can see this dynamic so clearly because usually in every relationship there is one who loves the most and the other who doesn’t love, who only takes advantage of the one who gives his or her heart. You can see the way they manipulate each other, their actions and reactions, and they are just like the provider and the drug addict.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“We don’t notice we are lying, and sometimes even when we know we are lying, we justify the lie and excuse the lie to protect ourselves from the pain of our wounds. The denial system is like a wall of fog in front of our eyes that blinds us from seeing the truth. We wear a social mask because it’s too painful to see ourselves or to let others see us as we really are. And the denial system lets us pretend that everyone believes what we want them to believe about us. We put up these barriers for protection, to keep other people away,”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“They are living in the moment. They are not ashamed of the past; they are not worried about the future. Little children express what they feel, and they are not afraid to love.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“To become masters of love, we have to practice love. The art of relationship is also a whole mastery, and the only way to reach mastery is with practice.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“...Nothing that your partner does is personal. Your partner is dealing with her own garbage. If you don't take it personally, it will be so easy for you to have a wonderful relationship with your partner”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“Life brings to you exactly what you need. There is perfect justice in hell. There is nothing to blame. We can even say that our suffering is a gift. If you just open your eyes and see what is around you, it’s exactly what you need to clean your poison, to heal your wounds, to accept yourself, and to get out of hell.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“The limit of your self-abuse is the limit you will tolerate from other people. If someone abuses you more than you abuse yourself, you walk away, you run, you escape. But if someone abuses you a little less than you abuse yourself, perhaps you stay longer. You still deserve that abuse.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“Let us trust ourselves completely to make the choices we must make.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“What we call education is nothing but domestication of the human being.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“You are going to love her and accept her with all of her garbage. You are going to respect her garbage. You are not in the relationship to clean your partner’s garbage; she is going to clean her own.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“Love is based on respect. Fear doesn’t respect anything, including itself. If I feel sorry for you, it means I don’t respect you. You cannot make your own choices.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

Just because someone rejects you doesn't mean you have to reject yourself. If one person doesn't love you, someone else will love you. There is always someone else. And it's better to be with someone who wants to be with you than to be with someone who has to be with you.”
― Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“Finally, if you are aware that no one else can make you happy, and that happiness is the result of love coming out of you, this becomes the greatest mastery of the Toltecs, the Mastery of Love.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“Love is ruthless; it doesn’t feel sorry for anyone, but it does have compassion. Fear is full of pity; it feels sorry for everyone. You feel sorry for me when you don’t respect me, when you don’t think I am strong enough to make it. On the other hand, love respects. I love you; I know you can make it. I know you are strong enough, intelligent enough, good enough that you can make your own choices. I don’t have to make your choices for you. You can make it. If you fall, I can give you my hand, I can help you to stand up. I can say, “You can do it, go ahead.” That is compassion, but it is not the same as feeling sorry. Compassion comes from respect and from love; feeling sorry comes from a lack of respect and from fear.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“All of our drama and suffering is by practice.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“If you have the expectation that I have to be a certain way, then I feel the obligation to be that way.The truth is I am bot what you want me to be. When I am honest and I am what I am, you are already hurt, you are mad. Then I lie to you, because I'm afraid of your judgment. I am afraid you are going to blame me, find me guilty, and punish me.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“We try so hard to be important, to be a winner, to be powerful, to be rich, to be famous, to express our personal dream, and to impose our dream onto other people around us.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“We can talk about love and write a thousand books about it, but love will be completely different for each of us because we have to experience love. Love is not about concepts; love is about action. Love in action can only produce happiness. Fear in action can only produce suffering. The only way to master love is to practice love. You don’t need to justify your love, you don’t need to explain your love; you just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, you are never going to be what that person wants you to be.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“You have the right to be mad, but I don’t have to be mad because you are mad. I didn’t do anything to cause your anger.” You don’t have to accept your partner’s anger at all, but you can allow her to be angry. There is no need to argue; just allow her to be what she is, allow her to heal without intervening. And you can also agree not to interfere with your own healing process.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“We search for love outside ourselves when love is all around us. Love is everywhere, but we don’t have the eyes to see. Our emotional body is no longer tuned to love. We are so afraid to love because it isn’t safe to love. The fear of rejection frightens us. We have to pretend to be what we are not; we try to be accepted by our partner when we don’t accept ourselves. But the problem is not that our partner rejects us. The problem is that we reject ourselves, because we are not good enough, because that is what we believe.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“We are so selfish that we want the person with whom we are sharing our life to be as needy as we are. We want “someone who needs me” in order to justify our existence, in order to feel that we have a reason to be alive. We think we are searching for love, but we are searching for “someone who needs me,” someone we can control and manipulate.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“El miedo al amor es uno de los mayores miedos que padecen los seres humanos.”
― Miguel Ruiz, La maestría del amor

“We get numb together, we start talking about our suffering, and we understand each other very well. We even start to enjoy it. We understand each other perfectly because we vibrate in the same frequency. We are both being self-destructive. Then I hurt you, you hurt me — a perfect relationship in hell.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“Sex is the biggest sin of the humans, when the human body is made for sex. You are a biological, sexual being, and that is just the way it is. Your body is so wise. All that intelligence is in the genes, in the DNA. The DNA doesn’t need to understand or justify everything; it just knows. The problem is not with sex. The problem is the way we manipulate the knowledge and our judgments, when there is really nothing to justify. It’s so hard for the mind to surrender, to accept that it’s just the way it is. We have a whole set of beliefs about what sex should be, about how relationships should be, and these beliefs are completely distorted.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“Humans use fear to domesticate humans, and our fear increases with each experience of injustice.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“When a man meets a woman, he makes an image of her from his point of view, and the woman makes an image of the man from her point of view. Then he tries to make her fit the image he makes for her, and she tries to make him fit the image she makes for him. Now there are six images between them. Of course, they are lying to each other, even if they don’t know they are lying. Their relationship is based on fear; it is based on lies. It is not based on truth, because they cannot see through all that fog.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship